Sometimes you don’t know you’re missing something until you’re given the opportunity to get it back. Since moving to Melbourne I have been really blessed to find some incredible friends.
It’s hard moving somewhere new and starting from scratch again. When we got here in October ’13 I had til Christmas with DDH before he went to Sydney for 3 months and then The US for 2 more months. I was alone, in a strange city with a handful of people who knew I even existed and I had to get out there and force people to be my friend. .. . . sometimes at Cake Point!
Today I was lucky enough to be invited to the Busy Women’s Circle in Essendon by my wonderful friend Clare. Circling is a very old concept but not one I had ever come across, so I had no idea what to expect. It was hosted in a beautiful space and started with a nice cuppa tea and a slice of cake. There were 8 other women there and after the introductions were done we all took our comfy cushions and cosy blankets and sat.
It’s a beautiful thing when women come together just for the sheer pleasure of nurturing and supporting each other. We shared stories of our lives, our triumphs and trials, who we hoped to be and the dreams we pursue. We laughed together as we shared tales of do-daring and general losing of shit.
The pressure to be perfect all the time and to have your ducks in a row can be suffocating. We are connected to hundreds of people on facebook and yet spend a lot of our time feeling alone. I was reading recently that women feel more pressure from their friends’ pictures online than they do from the ever glam Kim Kardi-West. Every time we see someone’s perfect day moment we forget that behind it is another 23 hours and 59 minutes of actual real life. Life that involves no make up, screaming children, a less than perfect spouse and probably food in your hair. And you know what . . . that’s ok. Maybe we should share more pictures of us failing it than nailing it. You are more than a picture moment, you are a whole life.
I came away from the circle feeling refreshed and invigorated. Reconnected with my life and who I am. It is a special gift to realise that you love and are loved. So find a circle and start to share.